Couples Therapy

Gone from lovers to roommates.

Once, you were the couple everyone admired – you even half-joked that you must share the same soul. Initially, you did everything together while sharing a strong bond that seemed unbreakable.

But now, one person feels trapped, quietly yearning for space, and drowning in guilt for even feeling that way. Meanwhile, the other is left shocked, hurt, and struggling to understand.

Both of you are scared to be fully honest.

There’s a mountain of unspoken words between you – years’ worth – and it’s only getting harder to bridge the distance.

You’re living in a house of wars.

At this point, you’re on the verge of giving up.

You’re constantly bracing for the next explosion, even when things seem calm. Most nights feel like you’re either in the middle of a war or recovering from the wreckage of the last fight.

Although you’ve heard people say that healthy conflict can bring couples closer, you have no idea how that’s supposed to work. All you know is the pattern: explosive arguments, followed by distance, silence, and clumsy attempts to smooth things over without truly healing.

Once passionate and satisfying, your intimacy has now become another source of stress, disappointment, and hurt.

You’re unsure how much longer you can keep going.

Making it through today feels hard enough, making forever feel unimaginable.

Whether you’re married, dating, have a blended family, or are experiencing major life transitions, relationships are super meaningful. A strong relationship gives us a deep sense of security, that feeling, “I can handle whatever comes my way.” However, when a relationship struggles, it can be one of the most painful experiences a person has.

Truthfully, most of us didn’t grow up with great examples of healthy relationships. Many of us witnessed poor models, and harmful, toxic ideas about love are still everywhere today.

The good news is that you don’t have to figure it out alone. We are here to help you!

Here’s what therapists at Goshen Ignite can offer.

You will break free from unhealthy communication patterns, end the cycle of destructive, habitual fighting, and learn how to repair your relationship after conflict.

We can help you transform anger and resentment into understanding and connection, move beyond codependency, build a secure foundation, and unlearn harmful relationship roles that no longer serve you.

Through therapy, you will learn how to take emotional risks and become more open and vulnerable with each other. As a result, you will laugh together more often and fight less.

Our approach is about helping you reconnect with your best friend and rediscover intimacy together again!

Regain that lost connection.

Here is how we work to help couples make that connection: Sessions are mostly held with both partners. Our therapist may need to meet one-on-one with each of you to understand your backgrounds better. These sessions will clarify and allow us to address your relationship’s deeper issues.

We won’t just rehash past arguments or focus on what happened last week because that’s not productive. Instead, we’ll focus on the process. Our role is to help guide the conversation, ensuring that both of you are heard and that we can navigate challenges with respect.

We will help both of you “fight fair,” but not in the sense of taking sides. Our goal is to create a space for healthy communication and conflict resolution.

Ultimately, our work together will be collaborative. We’ll develop a tailored plan of action to improve both of your experiences within the relationship. It won’t be easy at times, but if we do it right, the rewards will be profound, leading to a healthier, more fulfilling relationship for both of you.